How to Get a Guy to Ask You Out

You like him, and you definitely want more – the good news is, the different ways on how to get a guy to ask you out are easy to implement. The bad news is, you have to be tactful or everything will blow up in your face.

The right mindset to have

The key is to act as a catalyst and nothing more. Balance is your friend and coming off as desperate is your enemy. Thus, keep in mind that it is better to do too little, rather than too much and risk seeming desperate. That said, let’s get right into it.

Flirt with him

Initiate light and playful conversations that subtly convey interest. Teasing works best since it will get both of you on a similar humor wavelength. Incorporating a compliment works even better. Tell him that his shirt is a bit girly but it looks good on him, or anything else in the same fashion.

Initiate playful contact

Go a step further and back it up with some action. Put your hands over his eyes from behind, take his backpack and run away with it, hide his pen behind your back, gently tap his arm disguising it as animated conversation, etc. However, tailor such actions to the mood.

Have positive body language

To become his secret obsession, you should come off as inviting by dropping hints with your body language. Look into his eyes for a moment longer (not too long or you will appear creepy). Lean in when speaking to him, look at the ground and act all shy once in a while and so forth.

Dress the part but be yourself

Guys are visual creatures and putting extra effort into looks may pay with a date. But, do not try to morph into someone you are not. Be modest too, putting everything out there will only pass the wrong message.

Find common grounds

As you converse, note the things the two of you could do together. If it’s football or any other sport for that matter, mention casually that you will be attending a match and ask him to join you. It the both of you are foodies, tell him about that new restaurant you have always wanted to try, etc.

Make things happen

As you pass by a coffee shop, feign hunger and casually suggest that you guys should grab a coffee and some snacks. If he was headed somewhere, join in and claim you were headed there too. At this point, it is important to reiterate – moderation, please.

Be fun

Above all, be fun. Make sure conversions are “happy conversations” 90% of the time. The point is to subtly advertise yourself as girlfriend material. Do not complain, whine, slander, etc.

Ask for his help

If pulled off right, the damsel in distress card works like a charm. Ask for his help on things you know he is good at.

Convey your availability

Make sure he knows you are single. Weave it into banter by asking what he thinks single people should do before commencing dating. Whatever his answer, suggest that you will try it.

If all the above scheming sounds like a chore, ask him out and be done with it. The worst that can happen is rejection.

Calorie Cycling for Fat Loss

Most weight loss diets involve eating the same amount of calories day in and day out until the diet is completed. While this approach can certainly provide excellent results, there are other effective strategies for rapid fat loss. Calorie cycling involves eating different amounts of calories and macronutrients each day. This serves two main purposes. First, it prevents the diet fatigue that results from eating the same foods in the same amounts day after day. Second, it prevents the body from quickly adapting to a routine, which can lead to diminished results.

Keeping the Body Guessing

When using this approach, there are low calorie days in which a significant calorie deficit is achieved. There are also moderate and high calorie days that aid in recovery, muscle growth and provide some psychological relief from the rigors of dieting. Since food intake is different each day, the body does not adapt as quickly, and plateaus are typically avoided. There are four low calorie days on which fat burning is maximized, but there are also two moderate days and one high calorie day to break up the monotony and prevent burnout.

Macronutrient Ratios

Along with calories, macronutrient amounts are also cycled throughout the week. Some days are high protein, low carbohydrate days, while others are high carbohydrate, low fat days. This is geared toward maximum fat loss, muscle growth and nervous system recovery. On the low calorie days, protein is very high and carbs are very low. This keeps insulin low and maximizes fat mobilization. On the high calorie day, fats and carbohydrates are increased to aid in muscle growth and repair the CNS. This approach allows for optimal fat loss without some of the negative side effects that can come from long-term dieting.

Getting the Timing Right

Cycling calories and macronutrients allows dieters to optimize their low, moderate and high calorie days for their given schedules. Some people prefer to schedule their low calorie days on work days, as this provides a distraction from the hunger pangs that come with a significant calorie deficit. The high calorie day can be scheduled on Saturday or Sunday to coincide with a family get together or social function. With this plan, individuals can schedule their days in the way that is most convenient for them, which makes this approach quite adaptable.

Making Minor Adjustments

Calorie cycling diets are also very flexible. They allow minor adjustments to be made in accordance with other training parameters such as upping the carbohydrates a bit for endurance exercise. In this way, calories and macronutrients can be further tweaked to suit individual styles of training.

An Average Week

  • A weekly schedule for someone following a calorie cycling diet might look like this:
  • Monday: Low calorie, low carbohydrate, high protein
  • Tuesday: Low calorie, moderate carbohydrate, moderate protein
  • Wednesday: Moderate calorie, low carbohydrate, high protein
  • Thursday: Low calorie, moderate carbohydrate, moderate protein
  • Friday: Moderate calorie, low carbohydrate, high protein
  • Saturday: Low calorie, low carbohydrate, high protein
  • Sunday: High calories, high carbohydrate, low protein

This schedule can be repeated the next week or changed to suit the needs of the individual. With a calorie cycling approach, it is the dieter who is in control.